To begin with – its much less bad!
We have a child who was simply dating a non-jewish man. To be she moved far away with him and out of our disapproving sight. Now she desires to keep coming back house. we have been happy to accept her, although not if she actually is ready to hang on emotionally to the son. We stay firm for the reason that then we can’t see her being with him if he is not a Jew. I will be perhaps not certain how to handle it, when I do love my child, however her option for a husband that is possible. How can I keep carefully the doorways ready to accept my child without getting too harsh?
You walk a tightrope along with your son or daughter. From the one hand you have to keep carefully the doors of one’s relationship available, while having said that you simply cannot accept of her doing something which will be terribly harmful for by herself and her future.
It really is difficult to give you advice relating to your specific situation without having to be acquainted with the particulars of the specific situation. Also, that you don’t make clear if she nevertheless would like to be with this particular kid, or if her return house is showing her realizing her error. But, i shall provide some basic advice which can be germane to basically all circumstances similar to this. For lots more personalized advice, confer with your regional rabbi or spiritual mentor (click the link to locate a rabbi in your area).
Our sages describe the basic mindset we should have towards our children—the right hand must bring close (showers with love and love), even though the remaining hand pushes away (disciplines). […]